Happiness is an Inside Job

Author: Robbie

Jul 30

Happiness is an Inside Job
By Dr. Steve McSwain

Know where to look. In Eckhart Tolle’s bestseller, The Power of Now, Tolle tells of a stranger who walked past a beggar one day, as he held out his tattered baseball cap and muttered, “Spare some change?”

The stranger stopped, looked, and asked the beggar, “What’s that you’re sitting on?”

“Oh this?” he responded. “Just an old box I’ve been sitting on as long as I can remember.”

“Have you looked inside?” asked the stranger.

“Why should I?” objected the beggar. “There’s nothing in it. As I said, it’s just an old box.”

“Why don’t you look and see?” encouraged the stranger.

Reluctantly, the beggar stood, turned, and slowly stooping over, he opened the box. When he looked inside, to his consternation, he discovered a fortune of priceless gold and silver coins.”

Most people look outside for what could only ever be found inside. And, where they look is likely to be anywhere. But, some of the more common places are these:

1) Pleasure is one place, which explains how most people have learned to endure the work week. They do so by thinking about what they’re going to do on the weekend. They’re the pleasure seekers who mistakenly think that the stress they feel comes from outside just as they mistakenly think that their freedom from it lies outside of themselves, too.

According to the New York Times, researchers have determined that, while fewer heart attacks occur on weekends, there is a day of the week wherein most of the heart attacks do occur. What day is that? Monday. The researchers have postulated that people so dread the work week that, when Monday comes, the stress they feel manifests physically.

2) Lots of people mistakenly think their happiness is in finding and holding the right job or career, or having the right profession. This is not to minimize the importance of matching your interests and natural abilities and talents with a profession that compliments them, as well as cultivates them. But, whatever fulfillment or happiness you may find in a career will eventually come to an end, just as everything else does. One day, you’re going to retire. What will you do then?

3) Closely associated with the right profession are the promotions that many feel will award them everything they need to be happy. “If I could just get that promotion, the recognition, win the sales awards, get published,” and so forth, “I’ll be happy.” Again, any joy you feel, and most promotions come with some measure of it, could only ever be temporary. The excitement with the promotion, like everything else, will wane and, eventually, disappear. Then, what? Another promotion?

4) Possessions may be the most common place in our culture people look for happiness–in the stuff they accumulate and acquire. The cars, houses, fashions, and so forth. It is true, when you put on a new suit, you feel good. When you drive a new car, it smells new and looks terrific and evokes the envy of others–all important aspects to my own illusory happiness. But, all too soon, the car smells and looks similar to all other cars. When this happens, the discontentment returns and the cycle of insanity starts all over.

5) One of the biggest myths in our culture is that people think, “If I could just find the right partner and marry the right person, I’ll be happy.” Happiness, however, cannot be found in another person or relationship. Since when did your happiness become someone else’s responsibility?

There was a couple who couldn’t get along. Every day they disagreed, argued, called each other names, and, as a consequence, threatened divorce on more than one occasion. But, being the good churchgoers they were, they had been raised to believe divorce was never an option. So, they remained in misery, made threats almost daily, but never followed through on separation.

One morning, she had all she could take and so snapped.

“Something’s going to have to give here!” she shouted at him at breakfast.

“Oh yea,” he responded. “So what are you going to do?”

“I think,” she hesitated and then started again. “I think we should just pray that God would take one of us…and…and…and then, I’ll go live with my mother.”

Happiness is an inside job. If you want it, you’ll have to go to the one and only place where it can be found – inside yourself. There is nothing outside of you that can do for you what you could only ever do for yourself. Happiness is not something you will ever find in life; it’s an attitude you bring to life. So, do what virtually every spiritual master, including Jesus, suggested: If you want to know where happiness is, it is inside of you. Make it your spiritual practice to go within – to meditate, or call it prayer, if you prefer, but spend time in the quiet place of your heart, and there tap into the infinite and natural reservoir of your own innate happiness.

I’ve put up an entire post on my blog about this (and written a whole book about this and other matters related to the spiritual life), and I’d love to share some of the things I’ve learned with you. To get started, visit my blog at http://www.stevemcswain.com/blog.

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5 Easy Ways to Develop a Positive Attitude

Author: Robbie

Jul 27

You may not notice it but attitude is everything especially when it comes to your quality of life. You tend to bring into your life the things that you focus on the most. I am sure you know of at least one person who has a terrible attitude. This could be someone who is extremely negative, not fun to be around and would always complain about how her life is horrible and everything seems to go wrong. These kinds of people drain our positive energy.

Negative attitudes are contagious. They not only make you feel terrible but those around you will feel the strain as well. No one wants to hang out with a negative person.

The good thing is that positive attitudes are contagious too. The difference is that people do like to hang out with positive people because it makes everyone feel good about themselves. If you want to be the kind of person that everyone wants to be with, here are 5 easy steps to help you achieve that:

1) Figure out what you love and do it. This includes activities you enjoy doing, hobbies, things you like to do in your free time and most importantly your job or career. If you start questioning yourself about how much joy and fulfillment you get from your job and realize that you no longer are happy then perhaps it’s time to consider a new career or options you can take to move to a new career. When you do things that make you happy, you feel better about yourself, have a positive outlook at life and you begin to project a positive attitude.

2) No matter what, expect the best. Although it seems easier to see the negative in every situation, turn around and look for the positive in everything. Make it a habit to expect the best out of every circumstance. Recite an affirmation, “Everything will work out great. Everything will fall into place. Today will be a happy day!” The more often you recite affirmations, the easier it will be for you to believe that positive things do happen.

3) Boost your self-esteem. Think positive thought and speak positive words to yourself everyday. I’m sure you have at one point of time talked down on yourself. Negative self-talk makes you feel hopeless, pessimistic and frustrated. Acknowledge your good qualities and stop focusing on the negative ones. You may not be perfect but you are a work in progress and on you’re way to greatness!

4) Compliment others. Take a moment to encourage others. Try to compliment the people you meet each day – both strangers and the usual people you see. Emphasize on the positive in others and you will be more likeable. If you have more people like you, then, you will like yourself more.

5) Be strong. Think about your strengths instead on focusing on your weaknesses. Thinking about your “failures” will only make you feel negative and pessimistic. Continue to affirm your strengths and talents everyday. This will help empower yourself and you will soon feel in control of every situation around you. Being in control promotes a positive attitude

If you’re ready to boost your self esteem and live a happier life, I recommend picking up a copy of the Journey To Joy Guide. It’s your place for instant downloadable help, day or night.
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