A family unit is a very important unit for anyone. People live almost all of their lives with their families. Even if they do not spend lots of time together, still in most societies the culture binds them with each other. A family basically is a domestic group. These people are related to each other by blood ties. They usually share their surname. Wherever you go in this world, the family unit exits. There are different trends in different parts of the world. Not all the parts of the world experience joint families through out their lives. For example in the developed countries of the west it is very common that as the kids grow and they complete their education, they move to the places where they want to live and work. They remain in connection with their siblings but they do not necessarily live at the same place. On the other hand there is another extreme. In many Asian countries you observe that family units exist for a much longer time frame. In many Asian countries it is observed that people live in the same house with their sons and their families. Thus although the family unit exists in all parts of the world and all the cultures promote it, but in different cultures the time frame during which the family remains united in the sense they live at the same place is very different.

Family ties are very important. Your family life will be able to shape you as a person. What to become in the future is very much dependent on your family life. It is a common observation that those people who have a sound family life are more confident and aggressive. Their attitude towards life is better and their drive is positive. These factors are all developed by a peaceful family life. When a person knows that he or she has his or her parents and the siblings with him and he is not alone in this harsh experience of life, it becomes easier to bear all the pain. As these people face the rough and tough of life together, they are able to understand each other in a better way. These people are there to comfort each other in the time of need. This strength is very important to people. Knowing that even if you are in trouble and you are facing some rough times, there are people who care about you and who love you unconditionally whatever happens is a big consolation. Those people who belong to such protected environments are always brave when it comes to facing the difficulties of life.

The family life is one major factor which affects your personality. It is your family life and your experiences with your family which make you strong as a person. Those people who have a troubled childhood because their parents separate or divorce or one of them dies are always a bit more complex as compared to the other people who have had a normal family life. The children of those parents who leave each other for good are not that confident. Some of those kids may be very aggressive. These people generally do not trust other people. They believe that the entire world is out there to harm them and there is no protection for them in this world. This weakness basically is due to the fact that they have experienced a broken family in the early childhood.

Similarly the economic conditions prevailing in the family are also effective in shaping the personality of a person. If the family has seen very tough days and has survived from hand to mouth, people belonging to that family will see the effects of such tough times on their personalities. On the other hand if your family life has been a better experience for you in terms of the monthly income and the money you have to spend, you will have a more confident personality. Family life has clear marks on your personality.

People who live in the same house and normally are related to each other through blood, marriage, or adoption are called a family. Different encyclopedias and dictionaries define a family in different words. To many a family unit consists of two adults of opposite sex who are related to each other in a socially acceptable relationship. They may have kids. These kids and their parents constitute a family. In different parts of the world, different types of family structures exist. There exists a type of family in which a father and a mother raise their children. There is also another kind of family in which a male can have more than one wife in addition to kids. In some parts of Africa there are families with one female who has more than one husband. Thus the structure of the family unit is very much dependent upon the culture. Most of the cultures in this world promote family life. The family ties are able to shape the personality of a person, so they are very important. Keeping this importance in view, all cultures promote it. The presence of a family unit in the country confirms that there will be peace and harmony in the country. One more advantage of having a family unit in your culture is that people are responsible towards each other. Thus family life makes a person learn to be responsible for her or his actions.

These blood ties are important as they are helpful in shaping a personality. Although people understand the importance of a family unit, the trend of living as a family is decreasing. In many parts of the world people leave their parents and start living separately as soon as they complete their education and are able to earn their own living. In one sense this trend is very positive as everyone is responsible for his or herself. People earn for themselves and as a result, the number of dependents is less in such countries. The obvious result is that the economy of the country is stable. But the loosening ties have their disadvantages as well. Due to the lack of these ties there is a disruption in the society. We do not experience that peace all around the globe today as it existed few decades back. The reason is that the family unit is becoming less important to many people.

The decrease in the life span of a family unit is because of the fact that kids get their education and leave their parents to find work, and spouses lead their own life. There are many other reasons as well. There are many broken families now because the divorce rate is on a rise. The reason for this may be the unstable economic conditions or, a higher number of kids than a couple can afford to have. There are other social evils which are resulting in a lack of families and family ties for many kids. For example, there are many illegitimate children born every year. Now as these kids are born out of wedlock there are not many people who accept them. A huge percentage of such kids are put for adoption. This is something we must discourage. The parents should be responsible enough if they want to have kids even if out of wedlock. If they don’t want that, contraceptives are always there. But it is cruel to have a child and then to leave him or her at the mercy of people. There are certain other evils in our societies which are creating problems for us as these things are decreasing the importance of family unit in the world of today.

On the other hand, in many parts of the world the family unit is as much there as it was a few decades back. Sometimes the rigidity of these ties creates problems. The people who are bound to each other by blood ties in this situation do not give the other person enough space to breathe. This creates suffocation for people and the strength of a family unit starts disintegrating. Family units are still there but they have changed their shape according to the present day requirements.

Do you know what I mean by the term?

Your WHY is the reason you get out of bed each day and go to work. It is the reason you want the nice things in life and why you must push yourself further to get what you want. Your WHY can make you do things you previously would not have thought about and maybe they made you feel quite uncomfortable at the time, that is OK. It means you go without something so your WHY can benefit. Your WHY makes you want to achieve more, be more, become a better person, a leader, a success, whatever success to you may be.

So think about what your WHY is. It maybe your children, wanting a particular lifestyle for them such as private schooling and optimum healthcare, your partner/spouse enabling your wife to be an ‘at home Mum’, or Dad being able to pick the children up from school each day and help them with their homework, enabling your parents to have a secure, comfortable retirement, provide for your church, donate to your favourite charity, be able to donate your time and money to your school and community.The list is endless and you may very well realise that you have more than one WHY!

I would like you to also think about another equally important WHY.

That is YOU.

You have to believe that you are equally worth the other WHY’S and even more. You must believe in yourself, and that takes attitude. Feeling sorry for yourself and not worthy has to stop immediately. The wondering what to do and how you got there has to stop right away. Start believing in yourself, harness the get up and go and GO FOR IT. The doubts and lack of confidence must be replaced with confidence and an ‘I Can Do’ mental attitude, and an ‘If I Don’t Know I Will Find Out’ attitude. It is now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and redefine your beliefs.You must realise that you can do anything you set your mind to, with education, coaching, practice and commitment. Venus Williams said ‘You have to believe in yourself when no one else does. That is what makes you a winner.’

Education does not necessarily mean a college degree, but it does mean acquiring the information required to make informed decisions. You are able to gather this information from numerous sources such as the internet, books, dvd’s and cd’s, and from other people, especially leaders in the field you have chosen to be in, but to name a few avenues. Successful people of this world always surround themselves with like minded people who think the same, are on the same track as you and have achieved success in the given arena, think of these people as mentors and/or coaches. Never be afraid to ask questions, there is no such thing as a silly question as you will always gain knowledge from the answer, but bare in mind the quality of the question will be reflected in the quality of the response, so make your questions count.

You are then required to implement this knowledge, that is to practice, by working hard and assessing your actions and continually ensure you are heading toward your goals each and every day. You must commit to this if you want to achieve your goals. It requires you to be persistent despite failure, when an obstacle presents itself take a detour and find a better route, use it as an opportunity to gain a greater experience and never, never, never give up. Commit to constant and never ending improvement, if the overall picture is too daunting, then commit to taking one step at a time it is not always going to be easy, there will be times you want to stop because it is too hard or you are too exhausted, take the time to refocus you must always maintain your vision.

Success always comes with a price but the end result will be worth it, just ask your WHY.

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